What do you want?
It’s that time of year. The year’s end and the festivities to come are beginning to take center stage in many people’s thoughts.
Thoughts may be stressful, excited, anticipatory. You may find that your mind is busy being busy not thinking about what you want.
So a question for you to bring you right into the here and now…
What do you want?
It’s a question that often proves problematic to answer because, primarily, it focusses on you. You may be oh so familiar with the fact that given the opportunity to focus on you, you actually find yourself helping someone else. It’s a common self-sabotage that really does need to change.
Conditioning has a huge part to play in this behaviour, being taught to give and give to excess. To put your needs last and crave the labels that come with this self-sacrifice. Nice, kind, good, caring.
In fact, in many coaching sessions this conditioning is the number one thing that needs work to overcome. If you can’t give to yourself you really do feel stuck on the start line of life, it’s no wonder you may feel as if you are going nowhere.
So as difficult as it may be to answer right now, I really would encourage you to take a moment, a piece of paper and write down what you want in the first thre areas of your life that come to mind.
This might be:
- personal development
Your three areas can be absolutely anything, there are no rules. What matters is to ask yourself the question and see what pops up for you.
The next important step is to let the words just flow freely unedited.
- Ask yourself this question “What do I want?”
- Write down the first three areas that come to mind.
- Let your answers flow freely and unedited.
This is a great exercise to do before the holidays and before the start of the new year. You'll put you on the map and take this focus and clarity into the holidays and it will give you a sense of direction and focus for the months to come.
The next stage, well that stage is to follow through. Take action on your answers and perhaps seek the support of a coach to help you really give your actions wings.
Before we even ring in the new year lets get your needs met, because you deserve to fly!
Wishing you a wonderful festive season.
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About Jayne Cox
Jayne is a professional human centred coach & stress management consultant. Providing whole life coaching for personal development, self-esteem, stress management & more. She loves the opportunity to help unlock potential. A great believer in looking after mental fitness she created MindFit. Energetic & compassionate she achieves great results.