Saying no to stress this Christmas
Before you say yes to one more thing, and before you think that this year you’re going to make a Christmas that tops last year - how about giving yourself a gift?
The gift this year is one of self-care and, dare I say a bit more self love. Take the time to look at what is achievable without facing a stress filled build-up to the big day and a not so merry Christmas.
Clients over the years have told me about their common stressors at Christmas and here are a few:
- Too many guests for Christmas dinner.
- Things being left to the last minute and running out of time.
- Wanting to cook everything from scratch.
- Pleasing people by over committing to festive visits, when all they want is to take a break.
Remember this is your Christmas too and if you keep on repeating what you do each year, and it’s stressful, then this year will be no different. Change begins with the smallest of steps and I have a few suggestions that can make this season a little bit calmer.
First of all what are you hoping to prove by creating an impossibly difficult Christmas for you? Having too many people around the table is likely to lead to you feeling flustered and is that the kind of day you really want? Who can you speak to and say I thought I was super woman but I’m really not?
Last minute feels like it motivates, but it really is just a stressor. Plan, plan and plan manageably. Remind yourself to do what you really want to do and take the pressure off yourself. If it’s relaxed everyone will enjoy it.
If you’re a Delia or a Jamie then perhaps you can cook up Christmas from scratch and if you have the time and the inclination it's wonderful. If you find yourself unable to serve a home made feast, how about choosing one or two things that will help you to feel good about the 25th but not make you unduly anxious?
Finally it’s your holiday too and if you find yourself saying yes to too many visits, pull back and regroup. Consider your time, the time of your loved ones and explain that you’ll see how things go. It’s lovely to get together but it’s also a time for recharging.
I hope you enjoy a peaceful build-up to the festive period and wish you all a stress-less Christmas and New Year.
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