Four quick confidence building tips for party season
24th November, 20170 Comments
If you are shy or prefer spending time with a small group of close friends, loud social gatherings may leave you feeling stressed, exhausted and anxious. Over the Christmas period, it is more than likely than not you will have at least one event to attend that will be filled with strangers or with people you find difficult.
Calvin Coolidge, the thirtieth president of the United States once said, “Christmas is not a time nor a season, but a state of mind.” Being in the right state of mind can ease feelings of stress and tension throughout the busy Christmas season. Whether at a fractious family meal or raucous office party, it’s good to think ahead about the event so that you’re not mentally on the defensive the minute you walk in the door.
Perhaps most importantly you first need to own your choice to attend. No one can force you to go to an event. If you are there, it is because you decided it was important that you went; whether for your family, your career, your friendships, or just so you weren’t left home alone drinking eggnog with the cat. Own your decision to attend and then work out in advance how you can make the best of your time there.
Here are four tips to help you feel more confident:
Plan: Before you turn up, decide on a goal. If it is a work ‘do’ perhaps aim to spend quality time with people who can advance your project or career. Or get to know your staff or colleagues better. If it’s a family occasion think about how you can make it go more smoothly, or how to support relatives who have had a difficult year. Helping others ultimately helps us focus less on our own anxieties and concerns.
Prepare: Author Miguel de Cervantes wrote: “To be prepared is half the victory.” Great sportsmen visualise what winning looks like. Give it a go. Think about who might be at the event. Google them or look them up on LinkedIn so you can have informed conversations. And remember your business cards – you don’t want to be scribbling your details on wine-soaked napkins.
Posture: Keep a check of your body language. Chin up, back straight, shoulders back. If you are feeling nervous and stressed it will show. Smile! Studies have shown that your body language can affect your mood. Confident body language will make you feel more confident.
Peroni, Pinot or Perrier: Holding a glass gives you something to do with your hands. This is important if you are nervous. Also, a glass of wine or beer to settle the nerves won’t hurt. But, decide what and how much you are drinking before you walk through the door. One glass too many and you may wish you’d have stayed at home with the eggnog and cat after all.
About the author
Jenny Butter is an accredited senior coach and has completed CIPD in career coaching. All clients give consistently excellent and exciting feedback. Jenny offers face to face and online coaching; during the day, in the evening and on Saturday morning. Previous clients have spanned six continents and come from all walks of life.
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