Don't tell anyone I am seeing a Life Coach
“I don’t want anyone to know that I am seeing you”, she said. Then she continued to tell me that at her age she should be able to sort out her own problems. I was taken aback by that statement as I was under the impression that people believed Life Coaching to be trendy and it did not carry the same social stigma as some of the traditional talking therapies, such as Psychotherapy or Counselling might do. I decided to investigate further and to my utter surprise, I discovered that a number of my clients did not tell anyone that they sought help from a professional Life Coach.
One of the reasons for my clients’ reluctance to tell others that they are seeing a Life Coach could be due to the social stigma that might be attached to self-help and personal development. Although I would like to believe that there is an increasing acceptance of talking therapies, I fear that many still hold the view that in order to be in therapy or to be into personal development and self-help, there must be something wrong with you that needs fixing. Talking therapies, such as Counselling and Life Coaching are often seen as crutches for the weak. It is believed by many that seeing a therapist is a sign of failure and a testimony to a weak character. In reality, seeking help from a therapist takes a tremendous act of courage. It shows that the person has the determination and strength of character to change his/her life for the better.
The fear of being judged, being ridiculed, and being branded as someone who is unable to cope with life and the thoughts of opening up to a complete stranger can be daunting at first. All these fears prevent many people from seeking help despite dealing with difficult lifechallenges such as work stress, family and relationship issues, lack of confidence and self-esteem, just to mention a few.
Often the simplest things in life are the best. Talking might sound like a simple solution to a problem but it is profoundly effective. Talking through the challenges you face with a qualified Life Coach can be a cathartic experience as for the first time you hear yourself express thoughts and beliefs that you have never voiced before. You begin to have a deeper understanding of yourself and what you want out of life. It is a healing process that is gently encouraging and life changing. Through talking, charged feelings could lessen and some of the ‘pain’ could ease. Often while talking through the issues one faces possible solutions surface and plans are swiftly developed.
There is no shame in wanting to have a better life. Having the courage to talk about issues that one faces and having the determination to transform your life from the inside out is incredibly brave and profoundly smart. Someone once said, ‘Life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass, it’s about learning to dance in the rain’.
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