Children, autism, mindfulness, reiki and meditation
Over the last few weeks we have been having a lot of issues in the mornings with our daughter and her routine and getting her to school.
Mornings can vary massively from total calm and co-operation to total meltdowns and no desire to get ready, let alone go to school. We have had the diagnosis of ASD for two years now, under the old system she would have been diagnosed as high functioning aspergers, the new "label" just states it as ASD. This puts all children on the spectrum under the same banner. Unfortunately, the scope is wide and varied and children's mental health is a much misunderstood and often neglected field.
We have fought with medical, education and so called specialist agencies since Ffion started school and was picked up for her intelligence. She could read before she started school and was doing the maths and spelling of children three years her senior.
Two years ago I started on my Reiki journey and using this when Ffion has her meltdowns is a fantastic calming tool. Often when she has these episodes we have to leave her for a period of time before she accepts contact and communication. In her post meltdown state using Reiki always calms her and grounds her in the now and we can then discuss what has caused the situation.
Since starting my coaching training we have begun to use some of the methods I have learnt through NLP and other tools. One of the first things we did was creating positive anchors which Ffion often uses in school when things are beginning to get on top of her. She can now diffuse situations.
I have in the last few months - along with my Reiki self healing - I began to include a meditation practice each day. The daily routine has grounded me and in a lot of my daily aspects created clarity and focus.
This week myself and Ffion have began a daily meditation together. These are generally between ten and fifteen minutes. We have focused on beginning the day, kindness and clarity. I have been waking her 15 minutes earlier and though this is a change in her schedule which previously would lead to anxiety and frustration we have had the polar opposite. We generally just lay on the bed and listen to the meditation. I carry out a few Reiki mantras and place symbols over us. Ffion has a set of chakra crystals and she chooses one for the meditation.
This week we have had no major issues either at home or school. Earlier in the week Ffion's support teacher rang to say that they had noticed a change in her behaviour and the way she was dealing with situations that were previously triggers for her anxiety and meltdowns.
This is early days in doing this and I suspect we will have days when whatever we do there will be meltdowns.
Children are very special and whatever we can do to help them cope in the world we have created is surely a bonus, It is better to not break a child than fix and adult.
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