life is nothing if not without a sense of irony. For October my mission was to use science-backed theories to make myself feel happier, and as it turned out, October was the month I would need it the most, as a long-term relationship sadly ended. So, let’s see how the Happiness Project fared during this less than happy month…
Watch a feel-good movie
I would be lying if I said I wasn’t tempted by the idea of watching sad break-up films with my cat while crying hysterically, but thankfully I remembered my goal and stuck to feel-good films. I watched a few carefully selected favourite films that made me smile and I must say this did make me feel better, albeit briefly.
Monitor how much I laugh
This one may have fallen by the wayside this month – but I did make an effort to be social and have a good laugh with my friends. Spending time with friends and laughing about life is honestly a brilliant way to feel better after a break up.
Do a good deed
For this goal I wanted to do something tangible, so I decided to sign up to a care-package swap that one of my favourite magazines is organising. This involves creating a package full of beautiful, fun and quirky things for the sole purpose of making someone smile. This isn’t taking place until later in November, but I’m excited to create my package already.
Have a dance when I’m feeling down
I will be honest here – there was quite a lot of feeling down this month, so I didn’t dance every time… but I certainly did indulge once or twice. One of these instances was in the kitchen with my mum and dad before we all fell about laughing. Again a quick-fix for feeling lighter, but worth it nonetheless.
Goals for November
This month I wanted to pick my own theme for my goals rather than following the Happiness Project book, and that theme is to challenge myself. I want to be braver, meet new people and do things I usually shy away from.
- research an adult learning course to start next year
- go to the cinema alone
- say yes to every social invitation (where possible)
- have a voice at work and at play.
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Catch up on previous Happiness Project blogs.