Are you keeping yourself stuck?
If you’re feeling stuck in a rut, simple changes to your thoughts and behaviours could make a big difference.
At some point in our lives, most of us will feel stuck in a rut – like we’re on a never-ending hamster wheel of the same mundane routines.
As human beings we are naturally creatures of habit, and routine and structure is important as it provides a framework of security and confidence.
However with so many choices open to us nowadays, we are under pressure to make the most of every single day. We fear missing out and wasting time, and this can leave us feeling dissatisfied and unfulfilled.
To improve your situation, however, you first need to change your mind-set. We share some tips below on how to remove the fears, false beliefs and unloving behaviour that are making you feel stuck.
Stop negative self-talk
If you are prone to judging yourself and putting yourself down, you are never going to make positive changes and achieve personal growth. Saying things like: “Nothing will ever change”, “There must be something wrong with me”, and “I will never be good enough” will eat away at your confidence and make you feel worthless. Aim to be kinder to yourself and you will feel more optimistic about your abilities and worth.
You don’t need to ‘fix’ yourself
Believing that something about you needs fixing before you can take positive and loving action on your behalf is counterproductive to progress. You need to be accepting of who you are and embrace your true self to escape your rut and feel really happier.
Don’t be afraid of failure
You need to recognise that it’s fine to fail so you can break out of your comfort zone. Failing at something doesn’t mean you’re a failure. It just means there is more to learn and discover. Every successful person has experienced failure, but rather than dwelling on their mistakes, and being overly critical, they use it to their advantage.
Listen to your own inner guidance
Being afraid of rejection and feeling unable to trust yourself will prevent you from moving forward. Trust your own instincts rather than dwelling on the negative and you will feel more confident about making changes and taking risks.
During times of crises it can be beneficial to stock up on self-help books and attend personal growth seminars and workshops. However, you need to realise that while these things can provide direction and inspiration, it is ultimately up to you to take action and make important changes. You need to be ready to commit yourself emotionally, physically and spiritually in order to achieve personal growth.
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