January is a month for positive change, whether it be cutting down your alcohol consumption or resolving to do more exercise we all think of something that we could change for the better. Well how about resolving to make our relationships stronger?
It may seem like a bit of a cop out to make resolutions about how to improve your relationship instead of resolving to spend 12 hours a day pumping iron at the gym, but actually our relationships are profoundly important so maybe its time we start actively thinking about how to improve them. The Guardian has come up with some excellent tips to save you from making heading to the divorce lawyer this year’s resolution. Below are a few of the best:
If you’re going to row, do it nicely
It may seem like the point of a row is to well…row, but this doesn’t have to mean hurling insults at one another. Instead focus on how you feel and how you could resolve the situation. In a constructive row, you listen to and support each other, and compromise.
Don’t take each other for granted
Feeling grateful for something your partner has done increases the satisfaction for both of you.” While it’s important to support your partner through bad times, it’s more vital to delight in their triumphs.
Keep having sex
Although there are times when you really don’t feel like having sex because you’re tired, hate your body or would rather be watching telly, make the effort. Evidence shows that couples who have frequent sex are more likely to stay together, supporting the idea that relationships are all the more stronger for being sexually intimate. A common mistake is to think they have to want it before they start doing it. It often works the other way round.
Keep talking and spending time together
On average couples spend two and a half hours together per day but most of that time is spent watching T.V. Most of our lists of criteria for a good relationship will include being able to talk to our partnewrs, to laugh with them and to feel close and supported, well this isn’t going to happen if you spend more time watching T.V than you do talking to one another, so make an effort so get talking.
For more tips and advice on how to make your relationship stronger view the original article here.
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