Step 1: Surround yourself with people who care about you
Spend time around people who really care about you. If you believe that a friend does not have your best interests at heart then consider spending less time with them. Also try to expand your friendship circle as much as you can, as well as your usual friends try and spend more of your free time with colleauges or go and join a yoga group or a class that interests you. If you are mainly friends with couples then try to include some single people in your friendship circle.
Step 2: Have a list of emergency contacts
If you want to regain your independence then this is a great way to start. Ask your friends for number of reliable electricians and garages and this way you will feel well equipped to deal with any situation n life might throw at you.
Step 3: Treat yourself
It is life’s little treats and luxuries that keep us going so make sure you indulge yourself regularly. It is literally a case of doing whatever floats your happy boat. If you really enjoy popping out for a coffee and reading the paper then do that. If it is having a manicure or a bubble bath with scented candles then do that too!
Step 4: Step outside your comfort zone
Doing something you thought you couldn’t is a sure fire way of giving your self esteem a good boost. No matter what the outcome you will feel a sense of achievement just for having tried. If you achieve what you were aiming for then this is a step towards challenging negative beliefs about yourself that you may have been harbouring.
Step 5: learn something new each month
This doesn’t have to be anything really complex like learning to speak fluent French in a month, it could be something as simple as learning a new recipe or changing a fuse in a broken lamp. The more things you learn how to do on your own the more confident you will be about whatever comes your way.