Penny-Louise
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Halifax West Yorkshire HX4 |
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07969790762
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Profile
Getting the best from life can be tricky, even when we're not in the midst of global recession. Overcoming personal problems, gaining your confidence, keeping the inspiration and determination going, these are all essential to a fulfilled life.
And even when you get the 'dreams and adventures' stage, most of them are only exciting and fun in retrospect. At the time, they're hard work, frightening and demoralising.
But life should be fun, should be rewarding. Overcoming those personal problems, picking up confidence, being inspired and determined, these are the keys to happiness.
I can help you with these issues through coaching therapy: down-to-earth ways of addressing the things holding you back. A fast and not unpleasant process, I won't be dragging you through a bleak past, just pushing you firmly into a happier future.
Dating, especially, these days, seems to be a major issue for many. The opportunities to meet others in the real world are deminishing as TV and internet replace social activities. Dating is largely online, which has it's own challenges, and it's own peculiar skill-set. Plagued by time wasters, the real possibilities of falling foul of ulterior motives, the need to be able to present yourself with a huge degree of confidence, skills in language, it's whole new ball game for many.
I can guide through through much of this process, direct help and by giving you tools and techniques to do your own work.
Training, Qualifications & Experience
Naturally a therapist, I know what's going on in your mind, I can read you like a book, I can see your problems and fears, I can see how to change them and how to make you better, happier. And I can make you talk.... one of the most valuable skills a good therapist has.
Naturally confident and assertive, in my younger years I was shy because I had been conditioned that way, and so I believed it and behaved that way. Once I saw through it, saw that life was passing me by and I wasn't part of it, it took a year or two to work through the conditioning, then a year or two to 'catch up'. Now life is full, it's fun, the world is at my feet.
I don't suffer fools and I don't accept excuses. I push myself hard in this rich and wonderful world to get all from it that I can, and I expect my clients to do the same. Do less than your best and you will be letting me down.
I was a chartered professional in clinical services for 12 years. On being offered a consultancy I realised that, for me, a nine-to-five was a living death. I went on my own personal journey, which included dropping the shyness, met many interesting characters, found myself in some very sticky situations and narrowly escaped death twice. Experiences which made me who I am, living a very fulfilled life.
I choose to work as a freelance full-time professional in confidence, dating, kink and sexuality. It's rewarding work, extremely varied, it constantly challenges me, it's an area where I make all the rules up as I go along, which is how I like to work. I am inherently professional but love working in a field (life coaching) where there is still scope to be different.
The boring stuff: I am a member of the Association of Coaches, I hold an NLP Certificate and Clinical Practitioner License, about the minimum to be a qualified and professional life coach. But, for me, less is more, I work with those the system doesn't suit, I'm distressed by the uniformity of therapy services, I deal with issues many practitioners won't touch, regard as 'wrong'. I'm non-judgemental, I believe in primal, basic humanity, even when it's not pretty.
Areas of life coaching I deal with
Other areas of life coaching I deal with
Sexuality, sexual confidence, sex, fetish, kink, submission, gender, transsexuality, emotion blocks, NLP, dating.
Fees
Don't look here for a bargain, my work is good, it's intense and it's effective. Fees are £80 per hour at the outset, but they reduce to £60 for block bookings.
Is getting your life back worth paying for, with someone who can really help you do it? If you don't think so, move on... If you do think so, try it, and if you're not happy after a few sessions, move on... If you are happy after a few sessions, stick around, let's do some real work!!
Further Information
Correspondence from John 403 after his second session. My work with him is addressing an issue that has lain dormant for 40 years and has seriously affected his daily life:
That was stunning;words are failing me for descriptive purposes and I need a little more time to deal with the potentials revealed and to savour and enjoy the memory of the event itself. I got as far as the services on the M62 and had to stop owing to an extreme physical shaking reaction that lasted about 10 minutes. Presently inclined to put it down to a physical side effect from a mental epiphany. The remainder of the journey home was also made with a heightened sense of visual perception. All I could do yesterday was wonder at the colours and outlines, the intensity and sharpness of the physical forms around me.
Came down like a lead balloon (physically, not mentally) about 20 minutes after I got home. I fed the cats, dumped bits and pieces in the washing machine and put some food on. Simply could not keep my eyes open. Slept for nearly 9 hours, as opposed to my usual 4 or 5.
Not depression or hopelessness; more an elated melancholy. Regret for what I may have missed through an unnecessary self-denial; recognition that I cannot change the past and it is pointless to worry about it now;
and a muted elation about what I may be able to do going forward. I also know that it would be equally stupid to rush off and assume that everything is now "right".
Thank you for leading me to a point where I could do something. No rash decisions for now, but I would like to see you again and at least sustain our e-mail discussions in the interim. What you have described in terms of your life experiences was bound to emphasize and develop the essential resilience and deeply rooted self confidence that you project now. What was that old line ?
That which does not destroy us, strengthens us
A bit trite but aspects of it are true. This does not guarantee that you win everything or always break even of course, it can all go for a complete ball of chalk - but it does tend to define the way that you approach things. Not with arrogance or sublime certainty that yours is the only way of things - but the certainty that it will not ultimately defeat you or hurt beyond your endurance.
I think I'm only saying what you already know at several levels.
In your out facing work, you know that you cannot put something into a personality that was not there in some latent or undeveloped form. You can only hope to unlock a potential or remove a barrier and encourage it. I think though that unlike you being the human equivalent of a chemical catalyst, you will be changed to certain extent by your continuing experience, (I also think that that is part of the "edge" excitement of what you do and that riding the wave is the challenge). Understanding and relentless; you truly have your vocation.
So how come if I can glibly offer an explanation for you, (Note "an", not "the"), am I so wrapped up myself ? In my opinion, it's (almost) impossible to self-analyse. You always have an escape route or an excuse unless you are faced with an ultimate decision and backed into a corner with no escape.
Unlike you I have never had that proximal experience that caused you to in a way rebuild your personality or perhaps, more correctly, reform it. I would rather not have it, but I have the antagonistic desire that recognised that something was not the way I wanted it without knowing what I did want to do about it. I spent 25 years walling that uncertainty off.
I cannot allow myself to shy at honest words; Before our first meeting, I think you would have been entirely correct in your first definition. I was only thinking of being safe even in an extended format. Maybe playing at it.. "moving the wall" as you put it
Where I am now, thanks to you, is uncertain with a sharper choice. My one Devil says, be safe, extend at your own pace. Accept the limitations The other says nothing, just chuckles and offers a slight air of contempt.
You really have the most annoying ability to tug at the scar tissue you know, but then that's what you do of course and yes, I am unsettled and uncertain. I should thank you I suppose for the check point; and the encouragement and the gentle relentless pressure.
In time I will.
John.
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