Paul Stonehouse

Paul Stonehouse


02380 561079 / 07730 988361

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02380 561079 / 07730 988361

About me

My purpose is to help you be at your best, and experience more courage, confidence, self-belief, energy and fun in your career and personal life.

You may not feel anywhere near that ‘enlightened' state of being at the moment . You might be experiencing life as a struggle, or as not much fun, or frightening. You may be tired and feeling directionless, overwhelmed, left with a lack of enthusiasm, or stuck in a rut, and your work life balance could be, well, out of balance.

This is where my particular variety of coaching works.

How does it work?

I have no magic formulas to teach you – like ‘the-Top-Ten-Tips-to-Having-an-Amazing-Life!’ – as I believe these generally don't work. All the answers you require are already within yourself – you don’t need anything added. My coaching is often a process of removing excess personal baggage, so that you are freed up to  be at your best naturally. This is a sustainable way of living and requires a lot less effort from you in the long run.

I work with you to reveal and deal with your blind spots. Blind spots are the areas you don’t know that you don’t know about yourself, but it is from those that the real breakthroughs in your life come. These are the ‘brakes’ in your life – the areas that hold you back, and are currently masked from you.

At the same time, we work on locating and building your natural strengths and inspiration, and these are the ‘accelerators’ in life.

Through working with me, you get to take the 'brakes' off and apply the 'accelerator' at the same time, so life rolls forward much more easily and gets to be a whole lot more fun.

What do you get out of it?

You gain insight, perspective and understanding for yourself - the opportunity to explore who you are and where you are going - without boundaries, and make a profound move from being victim to creator in your life.

Clients gain clarity, direction and purpose, and develop the skills to access these for themselves at any time they choose in the future.

One client put it this way:

‘‘When I met Paul, I thought I wanted to get from A to B. After working with him, what I actually got was far more than I could have imagined – we went way beyond point B. If I had known where I would end up at the start of the coaching, I couldn’t have contemplated it, because I was so shut down at the start. And it’s gorgeous - I’m glad I took the chance!’’

And if you would like to know more about what previous clients have said, please visit my website,, where you can also subscribe to my regular blog.

Where are my clients from?

I have clients in the UK and  Europe, and from time to time in the USA. They come from all walks of life – including business owners, executives, lawyers, veterinary surgeons, homemakers, managers, and military personnel. At the moment, I am working with several clients who are going through work and career transitions. What they all have in common is their commitment to their personal growth, and a curiosity and determination to go through what it takes to experience what they are capable of.

What is required of you?

Taking yourself on in this way requires courage and some commitment – if it didn’t everyone would be doing it. You can experience some discomfort as you grow, but this is just part of the process of making the changes you will have to make to be at your best, and it soon passes as you tap into areas of your potential you have not seen before. Then it becomes fun!

What do I do now?

So if this sounds like something you would like to find out more about, please contact me to arrange an informal conversation to get the ball rolling.

You may also like to visit to find out more about a product I and a colleague have recently launched - Snapaband - which is a fabulous little device that helps you make effective changes in your life, by overcoming those thoughts and feelings that can get in the way of what you want to achieve - do have a look!

Training, qualifications & experience

  • Qualified Coach - European Coaching Foundation (Distinction) 2003
  • Institute of Leadership and Management (level 5) accredited coaching skills trainer
  • Resident Executive and Personal Coach - RAF Marham
  • Experienced coach, manager, trainer, speaker
  • Short Service Commission - Royal Navy
  • BSc (Hons) - Biology and Geography

Please visit my website, for more detailed information on my background

Member organisations


Other areas of coaching I deal with

  • Being at your best
  • Dealing with uncertainty
  • Career direction
  • Dealing with Overwhelm
  • Removing Stress
  • Gaining Clarity, Direction and Purpose
  • Developing Courage
  • Transitions in life


You have to decide whether it is worth it and for that reason, I always give people a free 30 minute introductory call. In that time you will get a flavour of what could be possible for you, and we will both know if we want to work together on this stage of your journey. During that call, I will answer any questions you have, including fee structures, which will help you make a decision whether this is for you.

A typical coaching engagement is 6-12 sessions spread over 3-6 months.

A coaching session usually lasts for 45-80 minutes and can be face to face, via telephone or Skype. If travelling is required for meetings, costs will be charged to the client.

Further information

Member of the Association for Coaching

Southampton, SO31

Type of session

Online life coaching: Yes
Telephone life coaching: Yes
Face to face life coaching: Yes

Practical details

Sign language: No
Other languages: None
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