Self-esteem vs self-confidence - what's the difference?
20th May, 20140 Comments
Which one do you have?
It's helpful to know the difference so you can figure out which one you may need to improve upon.
Are you even aware that self-confidence and self-esteem are different?
When we have self-confidence, we believe in ourselves and our ability to accomplish our goals.
When we have self-esteem we value ourselves, we have self-respect and practise super self care.
Many people are loud, opinionated, talk a lot and appear to be confident but the truth is many of them are 'acting as if'. It is a mask to cover up their deep insecurities, fears, anxieties and lack of self worth. Many are masters of faking confidence. Yet when things go wrong they are crushed and often start drinking excessively, smoke, bite their nails, overeat or live on coffee and not eat at all.
Self-confidence acts as the backdrop in your life and is the foundation of success. Not only does it make you feel good about yourself but it also means you set larger goals and determine your own definition of success, rather than adopting than anyone else's.
Self-confidence affects your self-assurance self-judgment, positive self-image.
Self-confidence is the key to success in every area of your life. When you have self-confidence you do not feel ‘less than anyone else’. You get that you are perfectly imperfect and you build on what you have. Your know that your perception of yourself has a huge impact on how others perceive you.
You show up, speak up, and stand up for what you believe in regardless of anyone else's views or opinions.
Self-esteem stems from our beliefs and our consciousness, therefore if you truly value yourself and believe you are worthy this will be expressed through your thoughts, behaviours, feelings and actions. Your self-esteem affects your self-worth, self-value and self-respect.
Having self-esteem means trusting yourself and not just treating other people well but treating yourself well also. It means focusing on positives, rather than negatives, and feeling worthy of good things happening. Taking care of your body and mind, and honouring yourself.
When you have high self-esteem you do not constantly compare yourself to anyone else, as you know that is insulting yourself. You focus on your strengths and assets and build upon them. You do not discount things that don't go as well as you had hoped, and when things do go well, you don't write it off as luck or give credit to others, you own your power and validate yourself.
Self-confidence and self-esteem
So I hope you are now clear that self-esteem is when you believe you are worthy and deserving to be successful and happy. Self-confidence is when you are not fearful to take risks and go for it as you feel talented, skilled, smart enough to go for it.
When you have both your life will change beyond your wildest dreams.
You say: ‘I am who I am. Take me or leave me. If I don’t live up to your expectations, that means nothing to me. I accept myself, and if you don’t accept me, that’s your issue.’ and you go for it!
Make it happen - It's your time to shine.
Annie Ashdown is Best Selling Author of The Confidence Factor - 7 Secrets of Successful People.
About the author
Annie is a successful corporate trainer, speaker, master hypnotherapist. Clients include household names in the corporate and celebrity worlds. She is author of 'the confidence factor', an expert on TV and featured in press. Annie runs regular workshops and coaches groups online, whilst working with a select number of one to one clients.
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