Five ways to think and talk yourself out of a negative mood
Sometimes we feel down and in a negative mood about situations and find it difficult to snap out of it. The intensity of the negative mood takes us further and further down and we sometimes get a skewed view of the situation because we are so far into it. In some instances you might seek out a friend to talk to, someone outside the situation and get an objective view.
What if you can’t talk to anyone, what if no one is available that you trust? What if it is in the middle of the night?
Because I know how detrimental a negative mood state can be, I have put together some actions for you to try out if and when you feel particularly low. The actions I advise are very effective in releasing negative thoughts and are often enough to lift your thoughts away from the negative.
Five actions to try out
Action 1 - Talk to yourself and ask objective questions
The next time you are feeling low and in a negative mood, stop and have a conversation with yourself. Ask yourself pertinent and objective questions which will allow you to put your situation into perspective. Try and work out the positives of the situation and reframe how you think about it. This takes practice but the more you do this the more you will see how it works.
Be firm with yourself. Are you building things out of proportion?
Action 2 - Imagine you are with someone you trust, what would they say to you? How would they try and snap you out of the negative mood and make you feel better. Say what they would say to yourself. Or imagine you are that someone else, listening to your feelings and then give yourself the advice you would if you were them looking in. This is such a good activity as it allows you to be more objective about your situation.
Action 3 - Are you worrying about things that you have no control over and therefore wasting vital energy? For example, do you often worry about what people are thinking of you, or about a situation that has happened in the past or future? If you do then this will always be fruitless because you can’t do anything to change it. Isn’t it far better to concentrate your energy on what is happening now and getting busy enjoying that? This is often difficult, but acknowledging this is a start and then learning to divert your attention to more positive things is the key.
Action 4 - Write a list of all the positives of the situation you are in, focus on them. Because this is a physical action, writing the positives on a piece of paper, it has more effect as you internalise it more and believe it more. If you dig deep you can almost always find something to be grateful for and something positive in your situation to concentrate on.
Action 5 - Get professional help.
I don’t often say this because most people can lift themselves up with a few positive actions. However if you have tried all of the above and have an overwhelming fear of the future, past and are generally unhappy most of the time you may need some extra support from a professional. Depression and anxiety is a real illness and one in three people suffer from it. It shouldn’t be something you try and ‘get over yourself’ and seeking professional help is a positive action to take. Go on this link to find out more about depression.
About the author
Wendy Bateman is an experienced teacher, personal trainer, NLP coach and owner of Choose U, a unique personal development and confidence building programme for groups of women.
Wendy also coaches individuals 1-1, helping them to move forward confidently in their lives. A natural motivator who encourages people embrace the positives in life.
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