7 steps to self-approval
Many believe self approval/acceptance is psychological in nature. But it goes deeper. It is, at its core, a spiritual issue, because it’s about love.
When we have self–belief we appreciate, value and accept ourselves. We have self confidence.
Get honest here:
- Do you fully accept yourself?
- Do you approve of who you are?
- Do you seek outside approval and validation to make you feel good?
- Do your judge yourself?
It’s crucial you take an inventory of all your successes and your attributes.
Stop any comparing and despairing right now.
Remember: you are unique and you have special qualities!
Get focused on what you are doing right and what you do have instead of what you are doing wrong and what you don’t have.
Ask a close, trusted friend to help if you are unsure about your good points - what you do well can be small or large. Perhaps you got a high mark on a course or exam, or you feel you are an excellent driver or you are considerate and pride yourself on always remembering someone’s birthday.
Keep an 'I am good enough...' journal and add to it daily or any time you find you are knocking yourself. All these techniques will help boost your self-confidence.
A lot of people who do not have self-approval make everything about them; they take everything so personally and allow it to crush them.
Who cares what others thinks of you?
Why is it so important? Secondly it is crucial you ignore all destructive criticism and make your opinion of yourself the most important opinion. Do not internalise anything that negative
people say. Their opinion is just that - an opinion, not a fact. Tell yourself over and over ‘I am more than enough’. Stop putting everyone else above you, and don’t allow yourself to be used
or manipulated by others.
It is crucial to watch the spoken word, every word we speak, and take it as an affirmation regardless of whether it is negative or positive. Make a recording stating positive things about yourself, and play it every night before you sleep. Keep doing this and watch your confidence rocket.
Do not let other people weaken your spirit or ridicule your
ambitions. Create an affirmation list that in a small journal that you can always have at hand each day and keep referring to it, so you re-frame your subconscious until it starts becoming a
natural thought. Give some thought to what you want your affirmations to help you accomplish. Get detailed and specific as this makes them more effective.
Make it happen - YOU CAN DO IT!!
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Caroline Wellingham - Accredited Career and Life Coach, NLP PractitionerJuly 12th, 2017