4 ways to lift your negative mind
20th January, 20140 Comments
Written by: Caroline Rushforth - Forth Horizons Coaching
4 ways to lift out of your negative mind
Depression / low mood is common around this time of year, however it is different and unique for all of us when we have it. There are things that you can incorporate into your daily life to help boost your mood and make the day feel easier to get through.
Here I share 4 ways you can lift yourself out of your pit of despair, even if it’s for a few seconds....
Changing your state
When we are feeling depressed or miserable we tend to lie down more frequently or slump on the sofa. When we lie down our body and organs slow down too, and as a result of this respite our thoughts begin to focus on the busy chatter in our mind.
The longer you lay when you are in a state of gloom, the worse you are likely to feel so it’s important to change your position. When you sit or stand your organs begin to wake up and blood and oxygen flows to the brain more freely (same applies when exercising). You feel more stimulated by your environment and overall this boosts a more uplifting state. So consider putting on a washing load, calling a friend or doing some tidying up around the house to help lift you out of your negative slumber.
Notice your negative mind
When feeling low we naturally gravitate towards different things that reflect our mood. We might want to listen to sad music or watch thrillers or horror movies. Or perhaps we see something unpleasant in the media or on Facebook and re-read it like mind suicide.
In addition you may find you focus on the people who annoyed you during the day or something your partner or family member did that irked you. Perhaps your friend didn’t call when they said they would, and this then magnified your state of mind into a more negative direction.
In a state of low mood or depression your thinking will reflect how you feel, and so it is important to try to switch your thoughts into better feeling thoughts. If someone annoyed you at work, try to focus on their positive attributes such as how good they are at their job, how thoughtful they are to their family. Perhaps they made you a drink a few hours ago or asked how your weekend was. If you’re friend said they would call but didn’t, you may feel rejected or forgotten but what about all the nice things they have said or done over the past few months or years?
This simple technique of switching the direction of your thoughts gets easier the more you practice, and you can try writing some positive thoughts or attributes out on a piece of paper too. Notice how different you feel when you are thinking positively of someone or something. The results are very powerful as you shift your attention to more pleasing thoughts.
Write down the things that are bothering you
Writing is a great way to release emotions and feelings if you are consistently internalising. Emotions are supposed to naturally move through you, so the more you try to suppress them, the worse you will feel. You feel down but you are not sure why and that is OK too. Perhaps you are frustrated by the fact that you aren't sure what is bothering you, so write that out instead. Writing is a great release because even if you don't feel you have anything to be depressed about, you can write about your frustrations for being irrationally miserable. How does that make you feel? Annoyed, ungrateful, guilty?
Do something for yourself on a regular basis
Often it is common that we want to let go of the things that made us happy when we are feeling depressed. We find that there is no joy in what we used to love doing so we give up altogether. Consider overriding this and make a conscious effort to do at least one thing a day that you enjoy or enjoyed in the past. Even if at the time you don’t think it will make you feel good, the likelihood is that after a few times practising, you will begin to form a habit, and it will feel like second nature after a few weeks. As a result you will slowly begin to have a more natural steer towards better feeling thoughts.
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