Everyone knows somebody who has a better career than they do. This could be because they earn more money, have a better work/life balance or their jobs are more enjoyable.
The rise of social media has highlighted what’s going on in people’s lives. If someone loves what they do, they will let you know about it via Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, Google+ and so on.
While these posts may make you feel down about your own career, there are ways to refocus your envy into motivation.
You make your own luck
Just because someone is working for their dream employer, doesn’t mean they didn’t work hard to get there.
Try approaching that person and asking them how they got to the position they are in. They might not even realise their position is enviable, and you might just find your new career mentor.
Why are you envious?
The obvious response would be because others are doing better than you are. You’ve been aiming to get a promotion for the last year and your colleague got there in six months.
This can highlight how often you compare yourself to others. Lauren Bacon, seasoned tech entrepreneur, business coach and author writes: “It’s part ego (But what does this say about me?), part creative drive (What more am I capable of?), and part deep soul yearning (How can I make an impact, leave a legacy, and matter?).”
Use envy as motivation
After you have found the answer to why you are jealous, take that final step. Find out what qualities make you jealous and see if you can adapt them to fit your life. If you celebrate a colleague’s raise through gritted teeth, focus on acquiring your own promotion.
Only compete with yourself
Competing with yourself, beating your personal bests and reaching your own goals is a far healthier way to approach work life.
Envy can lead us to say some harsh things about our colleagues and ourselves. So channel that envy into motivation and gain the benefits almost immediately.
If you feel you could benefit from channelling career envy into motivation, you may want to consult a life coach. Find a coach in your area using our advanced search tool.
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