If you struggle with your confidence but are keen to make a change – why not treat yourself to feeling better about yourself this Christmas by trying out some of the simple and easy steps below. A lack of confidence isn’t permanent; you can change if you want to.
1. Turn a negative into a positive
If you are quick to criticise yourself then try to turn those criticisms into something positive instead of letting them fester or become self-fulfilling prophecies. Low self-confidence often starts early on in life and simply becomes a habit – the great news is however, you can change this.
If you have thought since an early age that no one is interested in what you have to say then try to turn this around. Think to yourself ‘I have lot’s of interesting things to say’, remind yourself of the great conversations you have with your friends and how you make them laugh and feel confident that you can carry this through to other areas of your life.
2. Don’t be overcome by nerves
Whilst butterflies and nerves can be an effective way for our body to remind us that we must perform well, they can also result in us feeling so terrified of failing that we do indeed fail.
A great way of not letting anyone see you crumble under pressure is to fake it. Whilst faking confidence seems like a little bit of a pointless and short term solution, in actual fact it can lead you to feeling naturally confident.
If you have a work presentation to do or a first date, hold your head high, stand tall, relax your shoulders and give a big smile. If your mouth becomes dry then bite your tongue gently to release some saliva and then simply take a deep breath and go for it!
If you struggle with self-confidence and would like to explore ways of overcoming and improving on these issues then a life coach could be the answer. Find out more by visiting our confidence fact-sheet.
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