According to a new study published in the Psychological Science journal, some unattractive men get by purely on the unfettered belief that they are far more attractive than they really are, making them more likely to approach beautiful women.
Forget protein shakes, forget hair transplant surgery, forget that secret tub of Nivea – the key to dating a beautiful woman is simply unbridled arrogance.
The results come from a study of 96 male and 103 female undergraduate students given 3 minutes to talk to each of 5 members of the opposite sex.
Before the experiment started, they were asked to rate all 5 ‘dates’ on their attractiveness. After the dates, they were asked to rank how attracted they thought their dates were to them.
The researchers concluded that: ‘Essentially, men who rated themselves high on attractiveness were more likely to overperceive women’s interest. The more attractive they actually were to women, however, the more likely they were to underperceive.”
The results also revealed how women tended to underestimate how attracted men are to them. The researchers have speculated as to whether this could be an innate mechanism designed to deflect unwanted sexual interest and appear more choosy in order to single out the best potential mate.
So if you are an attractive woman wondering why the tall dark and handsome men never approach you, it could be because they don’t feel worthy enough!
Of course, physical attraction is subjective and should never determine one’s feelings of worthiness or confidence. As this study demonstrates – your confidence depends more on how you feel than how you look.
If you are feeling particularly unconfident or unable to approach the opposite sex, you may benefit from speaking with a life coach. A life coach can help you build on your qualities and help you to see your worth and merit in order to fulfill your potential. To find out more about how a life coach might be able to help, take a look at our Confidence/Self-Belief section.
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