Jealously is often routed in insecurity so it is completely natural to feel a little twinge here and there. However, the moment you begin to obsess, suspect and control is probably when you need to start asking yourself a few questions.
Firstly you need to establish whether or not you need to control it. Often humans act on instinct without really understanding why. If you have never felt a feeling of possessiveness before and now you are feeling anxious that something might be going on then discuss this with your partner and make it crystal clear that you will not tolerate infidelity.
On the other hand, if you are fully aware of your jealous and controlling ways and can see yourself destroying your relationships over and over again then there are five tips that might be of use to you.
– Firstly try to tough it out and ignore your feelings. It is not really a case of suppressing feelings as you know they are unfounded. It will be difficult at first as they will undoubtedly try to rear their heads, however over time you will become more used to keeping a rein on your emotions instead of having a paddy in front of your partner.
–Jealously has a lot to do with self esteem. If you can’t see what is wonderful about yourself then you are going to think nobody else can ether. Recognise your strengths and values and stay aware of them at all times. Confidence oozes attractiveness.
–Challenge your jealous thoughts by really analysing what is going on. Give your other half some credit and don’t just assume they are going to wonder off with the first women who crosses their path.
–Discuss your feelings with your partner and let them know how you feel. If there is something specific that has happened then let them know and they will offer your reassurance.
–Take a walk in your partners shoes. Think how you would react if you were on the receiving end of these actions and also remember that they have probably felt jealously at some point but knew it was unfounded.
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