When should women stop searching for Mr Right?
According to author Lori Gottilieb, once you hit thirty it is time to settle for Mr Second Best of Mr Right Now.
Gottlieb is the author of Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr Good Enough, which is published in the UK next week.
She believes that women who refuse to commit unless they find who they deem the ‘perfect’ man are consigning themselves to a lonely future.
Her book is based on an article she wrote for 2008 Atlantic magazine. It created an absolute frenzy among women and was then picked up by Oprah Winfrey’s O magazine, eventually catching the attention of of Warner Independent and Tobey Maguire’s Maguire Entertainment, which bought the book and film rights. Maguire intends to produce the film himself.
The premise of Gottlieb’s book is that from a very early age we are conditioned to believe that we have on true love and thats what we are aiming for. She believes that we should have a more realistic understanding of relationships, marriage and all the cold, hard benefits with which they often go hand in hand and then perhaps we might do things differently.
Often we walk away from relationships because we feel like they are missing something or we don’t have that Mr. Darcey feeling about the boyfriend in question. In actual fact Mr Second Best could make women happier in the long run as we don’t have unrealistic fantasies about them.
If you’re not convinced and still want to hold out for Mr Right then of course thats fine, but even so, Gottlieb has some excellent advice even for those who still carry the one true love flame. The following isn’t exactly a piece of advice, but is certainly something to think about.
“What makes for a good marriage isn’t necessarily what makes for a good romantic relationship. Marriage isn’t a passion-fest; it’s a partnership formed to run a very small, mundane and often boring non-profit business. And I mean this in a good way.”
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