Sounds like an obvious one but the more you show someone you like them…the more they will like you. It isn’t a case of leaving them a fruit basket or offering to complete that tower of reports that have been piling up on their desk, it is a simple matter of sending positive signals. When we receive positive signals it is human nature to respond, so if you like someone make sure you show it!
Avoiding someone’s gaze does not send of good vibes. Maintaining eye contact during a conversation shows genuine interest and a want to connect. Even if you are a little afraid of eye contact, glaring over a persons shoulder when they are trying to hold as conversation isn’t going to earn you any brownie points. A helpful tip for those who feel perturbed by staring into someone’s steely gaze is to slowly move your eyes around someone’s face in a pattern. Hopefully the other party won’t really notice these subtle movements but you will feel more comfortable.
Plan your conversations
Keep small talk topical and think about how you might answer common questions before you attend an event. It sounds like cheating but take a look at the days paper and then think over and practice what you want to talk about. This will help to boost your confidence and will stop you from stuttering or stumbling over your words and topics.
Mirror their tone
Mirroring someone’s body language will really help you to connect to them. You can also utilise tone to your benefit. Apparently studies show that a high percentage of what actually comes across in conversation is completely unrelated to the words themselves and the content. It’s all about rapport!
Facial expressions and eye contact are key is showing that you are really listening. Another helpful tip is to repeat part of the question or conversation back to them so they know you have taken in what they have been saying. This will also show that you are sympathising.